Sweetheart Guides: New Mexico

The Sweetheart Manual for New Mexico DeMolay is a great resource for young ladies looking for more information on the program.  It offers a set of guidelines for how a Sweetheart can show positive feelings for her Chapter and many ways to bring her closer to every DeMolay she serves. They believe that "by no means should the Sweetheart’s sole duty be to attend installations or provide refreshments" and we here at Sweetheart Social love hearing that. Kudos!

Suggestions for being a Great Sweetheart:

• Smile, a smile shows you are warm and friendly. Smiles are free and should be given often. Be sincere, talk and ask questions. If you are ever in doubt there is always someone you can ask who can give help or advice.
• Always abide by the virtues of DeMolay: Filial Love, Reverence for Sacred Things, Courtesy, Comradeship, Fidelity, Cleanness, and Patriotism.
• Offer to help the telephone committee and remind members of upcoming dates. Help with Chapter projects.
• Be polite and helpful to visiting Sweethearts and guests.
• Send get well, thank you, or birthday cards to members or advisors.
• In late March begin talking to your Master Councilor about Sweetheart elections.
• Communication!! Communication!! Communication!! It cannot be expressed enough how important communication is to your Chapter members, advisors, your state Sweetheart committee and Sweetheart Coordinator.
• Be on time! Being late makes a bad impression. Encourage your mother to accompany you to all functions and Convention. If your mother cannot attend you are responsible for having a pre-arranged chaperone.
• Dance with any DeMolay who asks you. “No” is not an option and always keep your type of dance appropriate.
• Don’t chew gum at Chapter meetings or other formal DeMolay functions. Don’t use profanity.
• Don’t travel alone.
• Don’t sit on a boy’s lap at any time or allow them to sit on yours.
• Don’t try to run the Chapter. Instead offer suggestions that might be beneficial.
• Don’t accept improper behavior from any DeMolay or Advisor. Inform the Sweetheart Coordinator or an advisor immediately.
• New Mexico DeMolay highly suggests you do not date young men within your own Chapter during your term as Chapter Sweetheart. Excessive public shows of affection are discouraged at any DeMolay event.

The Sweetheart Manual for New Mexico DeMolay can be found online and all young women seeking the position should be well versed in it's contents.