What Does RSVP mean?

"RSVP" is shorthand for the French “Répondez, s’il vous plaît.”

More plainly in English, it asks that you “Please reply” to the invitation you have received.

It's been our recent experience that even when a response is asked for, hosts often don't receive them even when they've gone to the trouble of including a response card.  This trend means either a growing rudeness amongst our culture, or people have simple forgotten what their social responsibility is as an invitee.  We would like to think that people simple no longer understand what it means.

This little code "RSVP" has been used on formal invitations for long time and it lets you know that your hosts want to know if you will be attending the event. 

It's important for your host to know if they can expect you at the event because it gives them an idea on how many people to plan for when it comes to seating, food, beverages, and favors.  

When one receives an invitation, whether as an single guest or as part of a group, it is the responsibility of those invited to let their host know if they will attend.   A prompt Reply, within a day or two of receiving an invitation is the most courteous action that you can take.  The Emily Post Institute offers us ideas for several ways that you can send your RSVP:

• If an RSVP is requested and no response card has been sent: a handwritten response to the host at the return address on the envelope is appropriate.
• If a Response Card is provided: fill in and reply by the date indicated and return in the enclosed envelope.
• RSVP with phone number: Place a telephone call and make sure to speak in person with your host.  Answering machines can be unreliable, do not simply leave a message.
• RSVP with email: you may accept or decline electronically.
• Regrets only: this means that you need only reply if you cannot attend. If your host doesn’t hear from you they are expecting you to be there.
• No reply requested?  It is always the polite choice to let someone know your intentions.  A phone call to let your host know you are looking forward to coming is sufficient.

So next time you, or your group is invited somewhere, be sure to look for that little "RSVP" on the invitation and give the favor of a reply to your host.