Manicure of the Week: One White Heart

This is so subtle and classy I think it would be stylish anywhere, and you don't have to have super long nails to pull it off either!

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Manicure of the Week

French tips are always a smart, classic choice for your manicure and this fun but subtle twist is Sweetheart fabulous!

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Sweetheart Guides: New Mexico

The Sweetheart Manual for New Mexico DeMolay is a great resource for young ladies looking for more information on the program.  It offers a set of guidelines for how a Sweetheart can show positive feelings for her Chapter and many ways to bring her closer to every DeMolay she serves. They believe that "by no means should the Sweetheart’s sole duty be to attend installations or provide refreshments" and we here at Sweetheart Social love hearing that. Kudos!

Suggestions for being a Great Sweetheart:

• Smile, a smile shows you are warm and friendly. Smiles are free and should be given often. Be sincere, talk and ask questions. If you are ever in doubt there is always someone you can ask who can give help or advice.
• Always abide by the virtues of DeMolay: Filial Love, Reverence for Sacred Things, Courtesy, Comradeship, Fidelity, Cleanness, and Patriotism.
• Offer to help the telephone committee and remind members of upcoming dates. Help with Chapter projects.
• Be polite and helpful to visiting Sweethearts and guests.
• Send get well, thank you, or birthday cards to members or advisors.
• In late March begin talking to your Master Councilor about Sweetheart elections.
• Communication!! Communication!! Communication!! It cannot be expressed enough how important communication is to your Chapter members, advisors, your state Sweetheart committee and Sweetheart Coordinator.
• Be on time! Being late makes a bad impression. Encourage your mother to accompany you to all functions and Convention. If your mother cannot attend you are responsible for having a pre-arranged chaperone.
• Dance with any DeMolay who asks you. “No” is not an option and always keep your type of dance appropriate.
• Don’t chew gum at Chapter meetings or other formal DeMolay functions. Don’t use profanity.
• Don’t travel alone.
• Don’t sit on a boy’s lap at any time or allow them to sit on yours.
• Don’t try to run the Chapter. Instead offer suggestions that might be beneficial.
• Don’t accept improper behavior from any DeMolay or Advisor. Inform the Sweetheart Coordinator or an advisor immediately.
• New Mexico DeMolay highly suggests you do not date young men within your own Chapter during your term as Chapter Sweetheart. Excessive public shows of affection are discouraged at any DeMolay event.

The Sweetheart Manual for New Mexico DeMolay can be found online and all young women seeking the position should be well versed in it's contents. 

Fashion Friday: Tiara Tips

Many offices and elected positions within Masonic youth organizations require their girls to wear a tiara. Though all jurisdictions have their own rules governing what sort of tiara you can wear, if you're lucky you'll be allowed to chose a personal traveling tiara that will be yours to keep.  There are a lot of designs out there, enough to fit any personality.  So how do you know what type of tiara you should chose?



Tiara Tips:

Since chances are you will just get this one tiara to commemorate your term in office, be sure to chose something that will look nice with all of your gowns.  We here at Sweetheart Social are partial to Sweetheart Tiaras that actually incorporate a heart shape. 

What sort of dresses do you tend to wear?  More modern dresses look best with modern tiaras.  But if you tend to wear vintage style gowns you can continue to express that look with a more antique style headpiece.

Keep in mind that a rhinestone tiara and no pearls, will match any gown style.  If you chose to wear a tiara that incorporates pearls, make sure the shade of pearls in your tiara and the ones in your accessories are always a perfect match.

If you have short hair you will want to decide on a lighter, more delicate tiara that won't require lots of pinning to hold it in place


Pick a Tiara that Compliments Your Face:

• Round or Full: Choose a tiara with some height or one that has a peak, this will make your face appear longer and create balance.
• Oval or Long: Choose a tiara with little or no height that extends over your head from one side to the other at an even height or a thinner headband style tiara.  Avoid tiaras with a peak at the top, which will make your face appear longer.  

A Couple Spots to Shop for Tiaras:

• American Beauty Queen
• Holly Hardwick Crowns
• Doc Morgan for JDI

We hope that you've enjoyed this very brief set of tips for picking a personal tiara.  If you love tiaras as much as we do you might enjoy visiting The Royal Order of Sartorial Splendor for Tiara Thursday! It's a great spot for a tiara loving, royal watching gal to get some fashion inspiration and have some fun.

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Sweetheart Guides: Chapter Sweetheart Crestwood, MO

Both DeMolay and Sweethearts across the country sometimes struggle with what the purpose there is for young ladies in this organization dedicated to making better men. The Crestwood, Missouri Chapter offers very precise guidelines for it's Chapter Sweethearts that explain exactly what is expected of the young ladies during their term. We like the Crestwood Guidelines because not only do they ask the sweetheart to be kind, polite and a liaison between organizations, but they also explain her role in gaining membership and developing fundraising activities.

CHAPTER SWEETHEART Responsibilities:

• Be present at all Chapter meetings, installations, social events, fund raising activities and athletic events that are planned during your term. 
• It is essential for the Chapter Sweetheart to know every boy in her Chapter and to make them feel welcome and involved. Dating within the Chapter or public displays of affection are forbidden. 
• Plan a fund raiser with your Chapter. Examples: car wash, dinner, raffle an item, sucker sales, etc.
• Vigorously seek to enhance the attendance, participation and membership of your Chapter. 
• Always have a sincere, warm and friendly smile for everyone. 
• Become a friend to all in your Chapter. 
• Maintain a cooperative attitude with the Advisors. 
• Act as liaison between DeMolay and Job's Daughters or Rainbow - possibly help plan a shared fun activity. 
• Be a hostess to visiting Sweethearts. 
• Help serve at breakfasts, luncheons, dinners, or receptions. 
• Assist with decorations, publications and committees. 
• The outgoing Sweetheart is expected to install her successor, however, can be made at the discretion of the Advisory Council. 
• The Chapter Sweetheart should always keep in mind that she is elected by the boys of her Chapter as their representative. DeMolay is a young man’s organization and ladies are elected by them to assist the Chapter and aid them in the enhancement of leadership, membership, service, and other DeMolay virtues. 

We'll be posting guideline from Chapters Across the country in the coming weeks so that you can see how Sweethearts across the country conduct themselves.

Does your Chapter offer detailed guidelines as to what is expected of it's Sweethearts? Does it outline expectations for a Sweetheart Court as well or are they a more nebulous concept in your area? Leave us a comment and let us know what you like best about the Sweetheart Guidelines in your State!

Sweetheart Guides: Indiana State

Every organization for young girls has it's own set of standards and guidelines to help their young ladies blossom into exceptional women.  Following these guidelines helps everyone know what is expected of them, and how to best serve the organization.  The following guidelines from the Indiana DeMolay State Sweetheart Manual, they call it the "Road to Being a Great State Sweetheart".

• SMILE- Everyone likes to see a smile.
• BE YOURSELF- You were elected because they wanted YOU, not someone else.
• GET TO KNOW GUYS FROM THE STATE- they elected you. Let them know you care.
• SPEAK- They know you can talk, so say something! Train yourself to speak (without shouting) so you can be heard. Be prepared to give remarks.
• ASK QUESTIONS- If you don’t know something or are in doubt, ask!
• LISTEN- Sometimes you are needed to just be a sympathetic ear more than anything. Encourage them to talk to you... show that you care.
• VOLUNTEER- There is always something you can do. Ask!
• GET TO KNOW THE ADVISORS- They can help you a lot.
• HELP- Get involved with your State’s projects, dinners, publications, etc.
• TAKE THE LEADERSHIP CORRESPONDENCE COURSE- The first LCC must be completed by all Chapter Sweethearts and Chapter Princesses before they are eligible to run for State Sweetheart. In addition, it will make your term easier as you learn more about DeMolay’s purposes and operation. 

We think these guidelines are great for all young ladies that are participating in all sorts of organizations.  A friendly smile for everyone goes a long way to making people feel welcome and at ease.  For young ladies that are a bit shy, it's okay take your time in getting to know your local group.  With a little practice, before you know it you'll be at ease with your core members and ready to branch out to some state events!